Relationship to Loved One
Parent (Biological, foster,step)
Tell us what they were like before they developed a substance use disorder*
Brittany was talented, smart, witty, popular, funny, loved all people, beautiful and everyone loved to be around her. She loved to ride horses, loved football, eating out, and hanging out with friends. She loved her daughters more than anything. She loved her grandmother too. She was a model with Wilhelmina. She was/is my everything.
Tell us about their struggles with substance use disorder
She was diagnosed with MS and had scholiosis along with some other health issues that cause her a lot of pain. She went to doctors that over prescribed pain meds. When they found out that she was addicted they stopped giving her the meds. She was prescribed 90 day supply by one doctor over and over again for years. Way too much. When she couldn’t get scripts she went to street to buy and they were expensive so she went to something cheaper...heroin. She couldn’t recover from the drugs. The doctors caused her death by overprescibing and then not helping her when they found out she was addicted. She lost her children because of the drug use but she was trying to get into a 2 year program and had to do an application, then a phone interview and then wait for acceptance or denial. She got a call that she was denied entrance on the day they found her unresponsive. I too blame the system for failing her when she wanted help.
What made them smile?
Her girls mostly...she loved them so much. Brittany smiled and laughed a lot at one time. She loved people and smiled lots with friends.
What do you miss the most about them today?
Her smile, her smell, her demeanor, seeing her mannerisms, her love of life, hearing her talk. Seeing her with her girls. Watching her eat. I miss everything about her...just everything.
If you had a chance to say one more thing to today what would it be?
That I’m so sorry I couldn’t save you. I would have given my life for you, changed places with you. I should have tried harder to help you. I shouyld have following the people that harmed you. I should have chased the people that sold you drugs. I should have charged all of them. I should have been there for you when you were in Ohio, Williamsburg and all the places you needed me and I wasn’t there. I am so sorry I let you down. I’m so sorry beyond words that I couldn’t protect and save you from those demons, doctors, and dealers. I love you more than life and it is almost impossible to go on without you. Thank you for the girls. They give me a purpose to live without you. I wish I could have you back. If only. The girls love and miss you. Poppy misses you. Nan misses you. Lots of people love and miss you. I don’t know how to do this without you.